How to Manage Family Dynamics Through the Holidays
Families – big or small – all have challenges they face; you are not alone. Family time can be enjoyable but it’s not uncommon for it to lead to stressful situations. Follow the tips below to enjoy your family time again.
A comment made by someone in your family may trigger you because it feels like an insult. But, that’s not always the case. Sometimes, overthinking what a comment meant makes you think it was intended rudely, but in reality, the person may have just meant it as a compliment. We can be so harsh on ourselves that our ears start to interpret conversations in a negative tone. Instead, respond and move forward; don’t let your mind wander.
No matter your insecurities or faults, remember everyone else in your family does too. When around family, you want to talk about your successes, happy moments or future plans. But, if you’ve had a tough time lately and are just trying to get back on your feet, you may feel insecure when your family asks about your life. Failing is a part of life, but that doesn’t mean your life is a failure; you are not a failure. Your family members also have faults and issues, so try not to let their questions make you feel inferior. Most of the time, they’re just asking because they care and probably can relate to your hardships.
If you sit back and watch your family’s interactions, you’ll see who asks the most questions but doesn’t answer any about themselves; who is quiet and secludes themselves; who is constantly on their feet catering to everyone; or who is constantly talking about themselves. At first glance, these traits may seem annoying, but if you think about why they act the way they do, you may understand your family better. Sometimes, it can also mean they’re having a tough time and are masking what’s actually going on personally. It’ll give you a different perspective on your family.
Whether you need fresh air, or your family is getting on your nerves, taking a break can help your mind refresh. Volunteer to take the trash outside, go for a walk around the block or take a moment to yourself in the bathroom. Take the time and space that you need to breathe.
When around your family, remember everyone has their struggles, but you can help them by showing them compassion. Most families have endured a traumatic event or challenges in its history, so be grateful for your family while you have them. Everyone has faults but it doesn’t mean you have to hold it against them. Showing a little kindness to someone can make your relationship stronger and make your family events more enjoyable.
